Habits – Check In
Monday, June 6th, 2005I need to institute some new habits this week so I thought I’d spend some time looking back on this process and see how it’s worked so far. I started my “Deliverable” journal on April 10th, which means I’m coming up on two months that I’ve been doing this. What’s worked? The habit that I was starting most from ground zero was the physical exercise. (I’d not really been exercising regularly when I made it a weekly deliverable on April 10th).
I made the following goal for the week ending 4/17/05:
- I did one set of 25 reps & 1 set of 15 reps of pushups on Monday, Wednesday & Friday.
- I did a pilates workout with my video or DVD on Tuesday & Thursday.
I’ve basically increased the number of reps on the push-ups each week until it became essentially a regular 20 minute upper body workout. The ab work on Tuesday and Thursday essentially takes 10 minutes to complete, but yields large dividends. (The toughest part is the starting…). I think that the key to my success so far with maintaining this is that I made it:
- Easy to start – No equipment needed, no place to go, just hit the floor and do the pushups
- Easy to complete – 2 sets of pushups goes really quickly, so “I don’t have time” really isn’t an issue
- Easy to maintain – I increased the number of push-up repetitions on a weekly basis, (rather than each workout) and upped the number of reps very gradually (After a week of 25/15, I’d add a set of 10). This gave me a schedule that I could consistently count on, and made the next week very similar timewise to the previous week.
- I found a nice balance – The twenty minutes, 3 days a week seems to be giving me the results I want while remaining doable even if my schedule gets crazy.
- I found a nice mixture of days on / days off – The routine varies enough so that burnout isn’t as much an issue. (Though I do need to constantly find new ways to vary the types of exercises I do for various body areas.)
So, the question becomes how do I transfer this these other things that I want to make a weekly habit?
- Voice & Speech training (especially the speech training)
- Music training (maintaining and improving my skills on Trombone / Guitar / Bass / Singing / Piano)
- Monologue training (I’m planning on taking a monologue class in July and will need to have some type of consistent practice in place by then).
- Songwriting – Ideally I’d like to find a way to make all of my creativity “habits” as opposed to something that I do sporadically.
Having said all that above, I think the thing that might have been missing in my past attempts at this is the whole “mixture of days on/days off”. I believe firmly that you must first make a thing a habit before you worry as much about the time spent. (The goal in the beginning of the habit is consistency… find the amount of time that you’ll be able to do the thing no matter what.) That part I get… but in the past I’ve always thought I had to do a thing every day. If I was to practice trombone, it had to be every day for “X” amount of time, or five days a week. Perhaps I need to find a way to incorporate the “Day on/Day off” approach into my thinking about practicing. 3 days a week playing the trombone consistently for 6 months is better than one month playing every day followed by 5 months of not touching the horn. I think the key here is to avoid absolutes. If I make “play trombone on Monday/Wednesday/Friday” my goal, that does not mean I can’t play the horn on the other days. It’s just giving me the freedom to not play without guilt. I can look back on the week and say “I’ve accomplished my goals for the week”. It’s alot easier to build on that success that it is to get into the spiral of self hatred and loathing that comes from setting insane goals and then not achieving them. Going back to the physical analogy: It is not unreasonable to set a goal of being a world champion body builder. It is unreasonable to expect to achieve this goal in 3 weeks of intense workouts. Maybe the best way to put it is to say that the Universe responds to consistency. Maybe it’s the consistency that says to the Universe “I’m serious about this… this is what I really want”.
When I put my goals down for this week I’ll keep all this in mind…